Hey guys! Yet again there has been a rather large break between my posts. It seems that I have quickly slipped from three posts a week to a measly one. I could list a whole host of reasons and/or excuses as to why I haven’t been so active on WordPress but to summarise – we all know that sometimes life gets in the way. This has meant that I have only really been reading posts I see on Twitter, as opposed to Reader. Side note: hit me up on Twitter and send me links to your posts! I have sucked. Big time. I am, obviously, planning to rectify this because Christmas is quickly coming around and I have a whole list of post ideas to share with you guys! On that Christmassy note, I hope you like the photos from the York Christmas Market that I’ll be featuring in this post alongside some of my thoughts.

Finally, yes you may have noticed that my blog took a “mature”(??) turn a while ago, and this has also resulted in less posts. I adore writing on beauty and fashion and other bits but I love more meaningful posts and this has generally meant that I prioritised quality over quantity.

So, less waffling! I wanted to talk about what being in my 20s means to me. I would love to know what you guys either plan to do in your twenties, are doing or did. Do you like your twenties? Did you travel? Study? What did you get up to!?

For me, your twenties seem to be a massive period of huge life decisions, judgement, and fear. Basically, a lot of emotion.

Right now, I am 21 and I am in my final year of university. I have some plans for the next few months and years but I am very aware that these will be trampled by some curveballs from life. I will, fingers crossed eh, graduate next summer and be moving to York officially. Hopefully, I will have a job that I am happy in and is one that provides me with some fab career options. I might be thinking about having my own family and settling down in the years after that and doing all the white picket fence crap too.

But. This is all very daunting. I often wonder if the decisions I am making now are because it is what is just expected of me. It is just presumed that you leave university with a good grade, get a job and live happily ever after in the house you buy, with your 3 kids and a labrador. In reality, there is a lot of debt, fear, and uncertainty. I have heard people mention recently in university that the pressure since being in their twenties has been astronomical. By your 30s, your parents probably had all the free-for-all, lack-of-responsibilities fun that they planned to have and became, what I deem, a fully-fledged adult. They most likely had children, married maybe and owned their home. Increasingly, people are making references to our generation having their 30s as their 20s. Education and career dictate so much of our lives that finances are strained and we don’t get the ideals of previous generations.

I could go down a whole other track about politics but that’s for another day!

I find it super interesting how more and more people want time to themselves after university and choose to travel or take a year out from studying or finalising career moves and get a low key job and essentially, just get by. There is less pressure, you can enjoy yourself and see the world and you have your whole life ahead of you. So why do we, as a society, push 20 year olds into this created norm where we study, get a successful career and have a family. Look at the people around you. The people in their 20s, 30s and 40s. Are they all doing the same thing? No. Were they all successful? No. Everyone hits bumps in the road and this ideal that we create for people to grow up in to is constraining and means that people “rebel” against it. Fuck you Brenda, maybe I won’t get a 37 hour unpaid internship just to get the job of my dreams at 21 when I can see Bali, Singapore, and Thailand and consider it after when I have a great tan and have made some questionable decisions about tattoos in foreign countries. Yanno what I mean?

I think that in your 20s you are pressured to fitting this “success” norm that doesn’t really happen for most and I find more and more hope and joy in seeing people break away from this mould. After being in education the majority of our lives, I think most of us deserve a break. A well-deserved one at that. People underestimate how draining it can be as a student (you know, not all of us are out every night and spend all of our money on alcohol and dubiously cooked chicken nuggets!) and how, nowadays, we are all pushed in to doing 101 things on top of our degree just to stand out from the crowd. I’m not saying I’m a shining example but on top of a very independent research and reading heavy degree, but in the last three years, some of the things I have done include:

  • Been elected the course rep three years in a row
  • Held down a job in a busy retail environment while writing essays and revising for exams
  • Visited China for almost 4 weeks to teach in a nursery
  • Volunteered consistently at a local hospice doing fundraising
  • Multiple positions in different societies

And you know what, it means I’m quite tired. I love all the extra stuff I do, and I wouldn’t do it if I didn’t, but sometimes the idea of escaping for a year or two after my studies is really appealing. In your 20s it seems more and more like we have to cram everything in, in a short amount of time, to be happy and successful and it’s just not true. I think people in their 20s should spend some time finding themselves, understanding what they want to gain from life and having fun. I mean, it’s going to take you at least 100 years to buy your house anyway…. might as well enjoy life!

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What!? What!? This is honestly incredible guys! 

Thank you so much for the continuous support here on ellamaygarrett.com, I can’t even begin to show you how much I appreciate it!

Hitting 700 seems a little crazy. Just the idea that I have come this far means the world to me. If you have ever read my short bit on my About Me page, I started this blog at the end of last summer to escape from my mental health diagnosis and I never thought that it would become what it has.

I’m honoured to be part of the blogging community, have spoken to the loveliest people ever and get to see how talented you guys are!

Thank you again for being the absolute best readers I could ever ask for. I couldn’t be happier to be doing this and it’s all because of you 🙂

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april goals

My goals have been such a prominent part of my blogging journey and I love posting them. Thank you to each and every one of you who has checked them out every month, it means so much to me.

Personal

  1. Try out a new foundation. I have heard a lot about Loreal Infallible and the Maybelline Fit Me ones in particular.
  2. Take better care of my body – we always want to moisturise after a shower but do we really?
  3. Work hard for my Events Fundraising internship that I have in Tadcaster. I really want to make them proud and gain a lot of valuable experience.
  4. Hopefully have booked a trip in June. Lisbon and Dubrovnik are currently top of the list!

Blog

  1. Proof check my blog posts more. I often drone on for ages and make errors or I write quite immaturely and I don’t want my blog to appear unpolished and uncared for.
  2. Hit 600 followers. This seems crazy to even consider!
  3. Interact more with people on Twitter and promoting my blog. My twitter is linked at the bottom of this post if you wish to head over. I don’t follow many bloggers and I would love to follow some more.

Academic

  1. Be proud of my God & Morality essay that I have to hand in on the 18th of April. I have definitely struggled a lot with writing it and I really want to be proud of it when it’s done.
  2. Revise hard for my summer exams in May eek
  3. Spend at least 2 days in the library each week to make sure I am doing all my essays and revision. No procrastinating

Do you have any goals for April?

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Where on earth did March go? 2017 is just flying by isn’t it! So here is my reflection of my goals for March. Enjoy!

What I Achieved

Personal

  1. For half of the month I definitely worked out and ate a little better but I am a huge slob when I come home from university and I have definitely plateaued since then! I think I’ll give myself 50% achievement for this!
  2. I have managed to save a bit more money which is good but I still can’t enforce a spending ban, oops! Again… maybe a 50% achievement rate here.

Blog

  1. I finally moved to ellamaygarrett.com and I am so proud of it all! Hooray!!
  2. I also hit 500 followers which is amazing and I did 2 Q&A posts to celebrate – here & here
  3. I have done a few more beauty/makeup posts too which got such a positive response which I really appreciated as I was super nervous about branching out. I did two posts about the Sleek Storm Palette (here & here) if you’re interested and missed out.

Side note: I wanted to include these huge milestones that happened this month too. I am honestly overwhelmed with the continous support that I have had from you guys, this month in particular has been amazing.

Academic

  1. I have started revising for my exams reluctantly!
  2. I worked really hard on my final essay of term so I am nervously waiting for that mark back in a few weeks. I am really hoping the work paid off and I have broken the ceiling of 63 in my English essays.

Better Luck Next Time

Blog

  1. I am trying out photography and researching where to pick up cool backgrounds and props but I’m not quite there yet – I would love to know what you guys use for photography backgrounds?

Academic

  1. My gosh I am still procrastinating so much. I need a slap on the wrist for this! I have been working full time so I’m going to buck my ideas up and knuckle down for the rest of the Easter break – you need to hold me to this guys!

 

There we have it! Thank you for stopping by to see how my March Goals got on. How did your goals go this month?

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second q&a

I really hope you guys liked my post yesterday with my answers. I actually wrote out all the answers a few days ago and they didn’t save woe is me so this is my second attempt!

Cheila:

Why do you thing you have so many people? How did YOU get them? What so special about YOU? (I know this, because I follow you but would like to hear your perspective!) I thought about this question for a long time and I think I finally came to a conclusion. Although, I would really love to know what it is about my blog that you enjoy! I could be totally off the mark here. On my blog, I don’t pretend to be someone I’m not. No, I don’t have an amazing camera, use photoshop for amazing headers or have the money to splash out on looking professional. I don’t pretend to be a high-flying blogger who knows what they’re doing. I very much learn and discover as I go and I think it’s that what makes me “special” – a lot of people use blogging as a tool for something, to get somewhere with it. I just do it because I love it.
What’s your favorite part about blogging? What do you love about it? This is the easiest for me! It is the people, 100%. If I could bottle the kindness of the people and sell it, I would be a millionaire. Everyone is so encouraging and positive, it’s an amazing community.
What is next? What are your blogging goals? And dreams? I think I will have to wait and see with this one! My blog is one of the few aspects of my life where I don’t set as rigid, structured goals. I’m interested to see where it takes me, if it will keep growing or stagnate and whether I will invest some ££ in to making ellamaygarrett.com more personalised to me. I’m not sure at the moment though!

Caz:

What are your job ambitions, and where would you like to live if you were to leave York?
I really want to become an events planner after university (something I am currently getting some experience in now!). If I couldn’t live in York and I had no money concerns, I would love to have an apartment in Paris or Barcelona but I wouldn’t want to live there permanently as I feel like it is very easy to forget to appreciate your beautiful surroundings. I love Cambridge too as it often reminds me of York and is close to home. 
You’re smiling more in photographs which is great to see, so what’s your next personal goal of a similar nature?  Thank you so much Caz! My next personal goal is to better my diet by I know this is a long term battle and an easy thing to change!
What’s your biggest regret in life? I don’t have very many regrets, I think everything happens for a reason. I do believe that I could have bettered my A Level results by attending a better sixth form.

Jirah:

What advises can you give to someone who’s starting a blog? I think holding off on spending money is incredibly important. For a huge percentage of bloggers, this is just a hobby that they love. But not everyone keeps their hobbies forever. For some it becomes a job which is amazing, and for others it comes to an end. You may find two months in to blogging that it isn’t actually for you and for many, buying a domain and more can become very expensive and therefore almost seems wasteful. I would say that it is best to wait to invest until you’re dedicated.
What would you say to someone who wants to give up (in blogging or anywhere) already? Think about your passions and the things you love discussing with others. If you love conversations about politics but you’re a fashion blog, maybe this is a path you should take instead. Don’t feel constrained to a niche and just write about the things you love!
What is your favourite motivation quote? At the moment it is the following:

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I have a Pinterest board of quotes if you’re interested in seeing more of my favourites!

Josée

What is your passion? Planning events and organising! Luckily I can do my passion for a living and I’m hoping when I finish university I will be able to dive right in. Other than this, animal rights is another huge passion of mine and something I am really invested in.
How to help decide what you want to go to University/College for!? Maybe I should do a post on this! I haven’t done some student type posts for a while now. I think it is best to do something you love and I recommend looking up the modules they offer for the full three years. I know many people that loved one year at university but hated the others because the modules just didn’t suit them. I know that modules often change but it is always good to be well informed on what you want to do.

I hope you liked my answers! I loved doing this Q&A post and I will definitely do another one again some time if you guys would like that.

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