The Importance Of Self Care

Everyone gets those days, weeks or months where they don’t feel their best. They don’t feel as great as they should and to get to that positive place again, some work needs to be put in. Your mental state is pretty damn precious and it is so important to care for yourself every single day.

When things get really tough, self care seems to double in importance. It doesn’t mean that at your lowest point you should doll yourself up, invest in spa days for months to come and pamper yourself in to another dimension but just remember the little things day to day to keep you at your best.

The things in this post won’t universally apply to everyone as we all enjoy different things and we all need different things when we are investing some time in to self care. If there are any tips you have, please feel free to leave them down below.

I would recommend drinking lots of water, as hard as that may be for many! I suck at drinking water but just gluing a bottle to myself wherever I go, I find myself unconsciously drinking from it.

Print out some of your favourite quotes, I have some on my Monday Motivation post that might help, and put them in a photo frame, stick them to your mirror or wall – basically have them out on display to constantly remind you. Remember, Beyonce wasn’t built in a day!

Ring or FaceTime a friend. I often cut myself off when I am in a low and if someone doesn’t give me 180% effort, I won’t reciprocate and I will be a totally crappy friend. It is a total weakness of mine so I am slowly learning to just pick up the phone and call people. It makes me nervous at first but the difference an (inevitable) 2 hour conversation makes is unfathomable. Jess is one of my best friends and it isn’t unheard of for us to have 4 hour long talks that just completely remove me from any hell I am currently experiencing.

Invest in some nice PJs that make you feel super snazzy. I have some really nice silky ones from Boohoo but I totally believe that nice pyjamas make all the difference. It doesn’t matter if it is for a duvet day or just going to bed – in any situation, it is obvious that looking nice and feeling nice on the outside, helps the inside.

Finally, I would suggest doing things that get you up and moving but distract you from how you’re feeling. This could be tidying your room, going through all your clothes, taking blog photos. Get creative. I have a scrapbook that I regularly update for my boyfriend and I which I generally work on when I feel low and it really helps to see a tangible achievement at the end.

Remember that you are loved and it is vital that in life, whether it is a low point or a high, you focus on the positive and take care of yourself.




  1. July 22, 2017 / 4:28 pm

    Love this post. I’m all about making yourself happy, if we don’t do it we can’t expect from others to. Nicely written dear. xx

    • July 23, 2017 / 12:41 am

      Yes, always reminds me of the RuPaul quote, ‘If you don’t love yourself, how in the hell you gonna love somebody else?’ xxx

  2. July 22, 2017 / 6:13 pm

    Great post…I will try some of your suggestions. You make a lot of good points 😉

  3. July 22, 2017 / 6:22 pm

    Always love self care posts, great suggestions ella :). I need to work on drinking more water myself. I would add though exercising makes a great difference too as well as ditching junk food for something healthier 🙂 it’s about balance. I love scrapbooking and I like that you said it looks different for everyone, so true. For me, yesterday I decided to explore a market, buy a couple of souvenirs and stumbled upon art exhibits. They had a feminist exhibit and a immigration exhibit that was nicely done. A homemade facial or painting your nails are some of the little things I like to do as well🙂

    • July 23, 2017 / 12:39 am

      Thank you so much for taking the time to comment lovely! I totally agree about exercising and food, they make a world of difference that very few things can even get close to. I wanted to include things that people don’t always mention because I feel that these are obvious in the steps to self care and I didn’t want this post to just be a repetition of other’s thoughts – hence me not including the obvious! Yes, balance is just the perfect word. I love that! Wow, that sounds amazing, what a great way to spend you time!! Nothing can go wrong with a little pampering too! xxx

      • July 24, 2017 / 6:57 am

        Yes! and I really liked that you thought outside the box. It’s refreshing to see important issues like self care addressed differently 🖤. Anytime ella, I enjoy reading your posts.

  4. July 22, 2017 / 6:32 pm

    Love this post! I love reading self care tips because I’m awful at it. The only thing I know how to do is buy myself something to make me feel better. I’m exactly the same as you said about being a crappy friend and cutting myself off, not getting in touch unless they’re giving 180%. I think next time I feel low I might try ringing a friend. Thanks for the tip!

  5. July 22, 2017 / 7:08 pm

    I think it’s definitely important to hit up your friends, like you’ve mentioned. We can easily be disconnected from the people we love when we are going through a rough time, and it makes it harder on us! So, I love that you mentioned that one. I also think it’s important to clean up my area and prep food as one of my self-care priorities because that way I ensure a clear head and a clean body. I always reach for junk food when I’m going through a hard time, so it’s nice to have healthy food on hand.

    Natalie |

    • July 23, 2017 / 12:34 am

      This was such a fantastic comment, thank you! Really love hearing about your important self care reminders – totally agree that you care needs to start with how you treat yourself. Good food = good care xxx

  6. July 22, 2017 / 9:39 pm

    Great post Ella! Self care is even more important when you feel down. Reaching out to loved ones is key, I’m glad you have someone you can rely on to pull you out of that funk. Comfy pjs also help 😀 I like to play around with make up and my hair when I feel down. It’s cheers me up to see what I end up doing to myself 😂

    • July 23, 2017 / 12:32 am

      Yes! There is nothing like pampering yourself when you’re low xxx

  7. July 23, 2017 / 12:40 pm

    Love this post 🙂 always love yourself!

  8. July 23, 2017 / 3:40 pm

    I love this post and couldn’t agree with the things you have mentioned more. It’s so easy to forget about yourself when you’re busy doing everything else. I’m a huge believer of having days dedicated to focusing on yourself and yourself only!

    Claudia | xx

    • July 24, 2017 / 10:46 am

      Thank you so much for commenting lovely! That’s so true – you should always dedicate some time to yourself xx

  9. July 23, 2017 / 4:37 pm

    Really enjoyed this post. I feel as though I need to take on this advice and have some ‘me’ time so thank you for sharing x

    • July 24, 2017 / 10:51 am

      Always remember to take some time for yourself darling xx

  10. July 24, 2017 / 3:55 pm

    Self care is so important and I’m so glad you made this post! I love the idea of buying new pj’s x

    • July 26, 2017 / 12:03 am

      You can’t go wrong with nice pjs – they make me feel so good when I need it most! Thank you darling xxx

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  13. August 15, 2017 / 11:12 am

    I agree with you. I f things around are looking bad we should not neglect ourselves, because this can result a vicious circle.

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