Tag: 20 Things I Have Learnt In 20 Years


I have seen a lot of people post these and I have really enjoyed reading them so I thought that for my 20th birthday I would post about the 20 things I have learnt that I both want you guys to know and I would like to look back on in future years.

  1. It is never too late to make a change, whether it be lifestyle, diet or mentality.
  2. Spoiling yourself is okay! Do not ever let someone make you feel bad for wanting to spend time and money on yourself. Also, everyone has a vice e.g. cars, clothes, makeup, music etc that they love to indulge in – and that’s fine
  3. Wanting some attention and to be cared for rather than being the carer is necessary sometimes.
  4. Not going out every weekend doesn’t mean you’re boring and likewise it is cool if you go out every weekend. I mean basically… You do you.
  5. If someone is bringing negativity in to your life then ditch them. This may seem a bit harsh but I have learnt recently that quality of friends is miles better than quantity. People who bring you down are not worth the energy that you put in to salvage what you can.
  6. I think this applies to a lot of people (like several of these 20 points!) but not having smoked, had sex, taken drugs, got drunk when other people around you are is okay. Please don’t ever feel pressured in to doing anything. I have seen so many people do things when they’re not ready or don’t want to because others are and 80% of the time it will be a horrible idea.
  7. Nobody thinks that they’re good enough. If they do, it isn’t always for very long. People try their hardest to be good enough but you’ll always be above and below someone else. Basically, forget those expectations. – This was something I have learnt a lot at university after spending younger years as a part of the academically better students at my school.
  8. Complimenting someone actually makes both of you feel good.
  9. Pick your battles – I mean really pick them – people do hold grudges!
  10. Coasting through life isn’t and shouldn’t be a goal. Always work hard (and play hard!)
  11. Make time for the ones you love. When you start hitting 20 and above, a lot of older relatives will sadly have already passed away or don’t have many miles left on the clock. Make the most of them , you will only miss them and regret it later on.
  12. Don’t rely on your parents, especially when you move away from home for the first time. Don’t rely on their finance or knowledge for bills, tax, car etc because you will never make it without them. (Note: there is also a huge line between help and dependency)
  13. Mental illness doesn’t shape you and don’t feel ashamed to discuss it with other people. Actually exposing yourself and making yourself appear vulnerable can give you strength.
  14. Making friends is a lot easier than you think. If it isn’t happening naturally and on it’s own accord, it probably wont ever happen. There will be people you naturally click with and people you don’t, which is cool, don’t fret!
  15. Try to learn something new everyday. It doesn’t have to be something ground breaking and revolutionary (or even vastly educational) maybe the name of a country’s President, a new word etc. Just expand what you know whenever you can – you’ll be great at pub quizzes!
  16. Mix it up often and avoid routine. Change your cereal, change the radio station you listen to in the car, hell even switch up your shower gel.
  17. Everyone is interesting if you take the time to know them.
  18. Make lists. Lists of where you want to travel, names for future kids, your food shopping, books you need to read. Make lists and enjoy ticking them off. It is far more satisfying than you think!
  19. I saw a quote the other day that I have definitely learnt a lot in 20 years – ‘be your own hero’. Nobody is going to save you. Learn to pick yourself up when you fall (bit of tough love!)
  20. Who cares if you have chocolate cake for breakfast now and then (or everyday, oops). In the grand scheme of things, it doesn’t matter.


Thank you for reading my 20 Things I Have Learnt in 20 Years post, I really enjoyed writing this one!




  1. October 19, 2016 / 1:20 am

    Cool post, some very good points to remember (and not all of them easy lessons to learn!) Happy Birthday lovely – hope you had a fab weekend!! xx


    • October 19, 2016 / 8:39 am

      Thanks lovely! Ahhh it was great 😘 xxx

  2. October 19, 2016 / 11:19 am

    I adore posts like this! <3

    • October 19, 2016 / 4:12 pm

      Ahh I’m so glad! Thank you lovely 🙂 xx

  3. October 19, 2016 / 6:07 pm

    Very wise words and you’ve clearly learned a lot – I wish I’d known those things when I was 20! xx

    • October 19, 2016 / 10:48 pm

      Hey! Thank you so much for commenting 🙂 I’m trying my hardest to continue living by them that’s for sure! Haha, my dad keeps quoting the parent one to him whenever I need advice… typical! Hahaha xx

      • October 19, 2016 / 11:35 pm

        Fantastic … and good for your dad!! hehe.. xx

  4. October 22, 2016 / 2:31 am

    Love this post! great post idea for my 23rd or maybe 25th birthday haha. Happy birthday xo

    • October 22, 2016 / 11:37 am

      Thank you so much for commenting! Ah that would be great, you should do it!! Thank you lovely 🙂 xxx

  5. Ingrid
    November 12, 2016 / 4:59 pm

    Love it!

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