We all have those days.
The days where you want to wear clothes 3 sizes too big and avoid mirrors so you don’t know if you’ve gained weight. The days where you don’t do your hair and makeup and instead curl up in bed for hours and watch TV. The days where you go out with friends and in photos you can’t help but feel you look the worst.
Nobody deserves to feel that way about themselves and I thought this required some of my favourite tips for boosting your self esteem when you need it most.
Tip Number One: Write a List
This honestly seems like the hardest thing in the world to do and at first it made me feel crap but if you sit down with a pen and blank piece of paper, titling it ‘What do I love about me?’, I can assure you it won’t be empty forever. I’ll be frank, it took me a few hours to get one. I enlisted some help from my friends and boyfriend and after a day I had a list of 20 things I loved about myself that I never even thought about. It honestly can be anything from loving your baby toe or the way that you laugh so easily at films. These kind of lists help when some days are awful, trust me on that!
Tip Number Two: Hobbies
This honestly helped me so much. I suggest either taking up a hobby you already had before and have dropped or even starting something anew. When doing this, set yourself a goal that is reasonable and yet still feels a little out of reach (in order to make you work for it!) I had done some cross stitching yeaars ago and decided that for my mum’s birthday I would cross stitch a black and white cat in the garden for her (much like our 3 at home). I was really struggling while revising for my exams at university. I didn’t think I was good enough to be on my course and it was negatively impacting everything around me. Focusing energy in to something else prevents negative thoughts from consuming you, as well as being proud of yourself when you reach your goal. My mum loved her gift and I was proud of myself for trying something new and succeeding.
Tip Number Three: Make Someone Else Happy
It may seem like your achieving the opposite and boosting someone else’s self esteem but honestly, complimenting somebody else makes you feel equally as good when you know you’ve made their day. I think this point is particularly important for women as rather than pitting yourselves against one another it’s so much more rewarding to actually stop comparing and just be nice to yourselves and others. Instead of feeling jealous that someone is slimmer than you, has got the job you wanted etc. saying “well done on that promotion” or “you look fantastic today” makes them feel great and in return makes you happy. You never know, someone might have something nice to say back!
This also helps in building more friendships and support when it’s you who needs the compliment instead.
Tip Number Four: Take Care of Yourself
As I mentioned at the beginning, low self esteem days often mean you may reflect the inside on the outside. Taking the time out of your day to look after yourself is so important. So do your nails, wash your hair, do a face mask and just relax. I guarantee you will feel better soon after (and even if you don’t you’ll look good being sad eh)
Tip Number Five: Exercise
I think this is the tip everyone reads and goes ughhhh but sadly we all know it is true. Exercising will make you feel so much better and there is something about the ache the day after working out that gives you a feeling that you have achieved. I have also stumbled across some online tips about exercising while in bed which seems like a great idea. I often do small things like scissor leg lifts or a few crunches if I want to exercise but can’t bring myself to leave the comfort of bed.
And… if you don’t like that idea I would recommend just reading a lovely book in a warm bed. Nothing beats getting yourself engrossed in a good book and trying something non-fiction is also worth it too! You never know when you could use the information and learning something new is a winner for self esteem.