As today is Mother’s Day I wanted to do a little post recognising my Mum and celebrating the things that I have learnt from her over the past 20 years. So here are the top 5 things that my Mum has taught me.
Plan, prepare and be patient. This has essentially been Mum’s motto my whole life. Although it orginially applied to baking and stopping me sitting in front of the oven complaining that it’s not ready, it’s something that I have taken with me through life and used in so many situations to keep myself calm and organised.
Shit happens so deal with it. Apologies for swearing but unfortunately it’s the most accurate way of describing the hand of my cards my mum was dealt for her life. Mum has what can only be described as the worst luck ever. She has currently messed up all the ligaments in her foot but her independence and determination means that she refuses to be doted on and will do as much as she can before ever admitting that she probably does need a little bit of help.
Money isn’t everything, happiness is. I definitely didn’t grow up being showered with gifts and being spoilt. I am constantly reminded to be grateful for what I have and I have always been aware of the lengths Mum goes to make sure I’m happy. The other day, while looking through photos, I saw little babba Ella sitting on a cute beanbag that Mum proceeded to tell me brought her so much worry. She told me that there was no way they could have afforded it but the look on my face of pure joy made the financial problem less of a concern. I always had some of the best costumes for school plays and events because her resourceful nature meant that she would piece them together with little money and huge amounts of effort to create exactly what I needed – including a rabbit, a Dad’s Army character, Queen Elizabeth I and more!
Animals are people too. Mum has such a huge love for animals which is definitely one of the reasons why we have 3 black and white cats – 2 of which are rescued. Mum has taught me to treat animals with the same respect as humans and love them unconditionally and it will be something that my children will be brought up believing too. My cat Bradley is my little rock and I don’t know where I would be without him!
Take every opportunity to travel and see the world. Mum could essentially write a book about all the places she has been to in her life and I always ask for her advice when looking up places to travel to. One of her most used phrases in life must be “ooh I’ve been there” as it’s something she always seems to be saying. She is definitely one of the best to get advice from, even though when she visited Bali there were only 2 proper touristy hotels at the time which is crazy
Mum has taught me a lot of life lessons that I will take with me for the rest of my life and preach to those around me. I am grateful for what I have learnt from her, whether it be things she intentionally taught me or what I have extracted from our relationship on what I would like to be like, or what I believe should be different in my life (because Mums aren’t always 100% right!) and I want to thank her massively for bringing me up to be grateful and loving.
Happy Mothers Day Mum!